Comment Vomit: How Not to Leave Comments

Comments are what make the bloggy world spin on its axis instead of crashing into its nearby planet Plain Boring Website.

If you’re a blogger, comments are what push you to keep trudging through the writer’s block and what keep you from throwing in the towel. You love hearing from your readers because it means SOMEONE IS READING THIS STUFF (although many of us would still write even if no one was reading).

But bad comments – those icky self-centered comments – those are the ones that pop our little bubble of excitement.

Truth is, we’ve all been a victim of “comment vomit.” We may have even been the one vomiting on occasion.

Maybe self-centered comments don’t bother you, but they bother me.

If you’re visiting a blog ONLY to have someone visit yours, well that’s no way to make friends.

Picture it in person: you’re having a conversation with someone and you’re telling them a story. A really great story. When you’re done, you pause and wait for a reaction. Then the person says:

“Just saying hi! Come on over to my house!”

What? Yeah, it’s weird in the blogosphere too.

OF COURSE part of the reason we comment on other blogs is that we hope they visit ours. But you really have to give to receive. Post genuine comments that show that you did in fact read their post. Because all us bloggers want is a little validation.

You may not learn anything today; you may be a perfect commenter! If so, just hang with me because this one is a bit of a rant. But I have to let it out because I’ve seen a few really hideous comments on people’s blogs lately (one in particular which I’ll share below).

Here are some of the worst offenders and how to remedy them:

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  1. says

    Wow Great Post! I’m your latest follower..
    I’m visiting from Timbuktu.com and have a great giveaway for a free proctology exam. Please stop by and visit! :D Feel free to blog about my meme or at least follow me back!!

    BWA-HA-HA!

    Just kidding! I totally agree with you. I have nothing to add but my sarcasm! :)

  2. says

    And the Chorus sings AAAAAAAMEN!

    No really, I don’t understand the point of commenting if you aren’t actually making a COMMENT on what the blogger is saying. Or at least commenting on another comment! I stopped doing blog follows for a while because even though it did increase my numbers, I was SO sick of the hollow stopping by! comments. I can stop by your house, sit in the driveway and claim I came over too, but did we connect? No. I am trying to get back into the follow things because I do like meeting new people and it seems like maybe some of that shallow stuff has died down. We’ll see.
    Andrea (Lil-Kid-Things) recently posted..Kid’s Concerts Aren’t Just for Kids!

    • melissa says

      I love the driveway analogy– that’s EXACTLY what it’s like!

      I find that SITS girls are pretty good about posting real comments. Haven’t had the same luck with some of the others.

  3. says

    I am on the fence about the “thanks for stopping by” comment too. I have done that one myself. The situation was this:

    A guy commented on my post and I don’t currently have an automatic email system for replies. He didn’t subscribe to the comments. I did appreciate the comment and wanted to let him know. When I went to his blog, I found that most of his posts were about religion. I am not religious. At all. I would have nothing to add to that conversation. I still wanted to show my appreciation so I left the generic comment.

    So, what do you do in that situation where you genuinely appreciate that they stopped by, but find that their blog is just not one that you have anything to add to? Do you say nothing?
    Ann recently posted..Taking the plunge

    • says

      I would definitely leave a comment in that case. Maybe I’d write something like – I don’t have your contact info, so sorry for posting this here, but… Anyway, once the blogger reads your comment, can’t he delete it?

  4. says

    wow thanks for posting this. Honestly I didn’t know there were so many types of commenter’s and I KNOW I am guilty of one of them. I really enjoy these Momcomm Monday it’s helping me look at things a bit differently to “hopefully” become a better blogger

    • melissa says

      Glad you liked the post (hehe). It’s okay- I have done at least one of these before- we live and learn!

  5. says

    I think I vary. Like, Wordless Wednesday/Wordful Wednesday posts. I know that sometimes there are things to say, but I just wanna see the pictures and say how cute they are. ;) And usually I’m just peeking in from some linky somewhere to see other WW peeps, so that’s good by me.

    I sometimes get a 1-liner response, and that’s also OK. Especially from old friends. When new visitors come by, sometimes it’s OK to say how they found me, but I agree, it might be nice to learn more about them, and what they think of my blog or what I’ve written.

    Honestly, I don’t mind the follow me back ones when they come from a Follow Friday type thing, but the one of those I was doing has ended, so I don’t do those anymore.

    I do not like the ones (I got one recently) saying, not sure if this is the best place to ask this, but … blah blah blah … self promote. All you have to do is look at my profile to email me if you’re gonna spam me like that. Right?

    And I agree with Ann’s comment, sometimes people leave comments and there is noreply [grrrr - now THAT's a pet peeve!] so I have to go over there to say thanks, and I kind of try to stay on top of that, but it’s kind of lame at the same time.

    Now that I’ve written my own article on this, I do agree with your main point: COMMENT ON THE POST. ;)
    Andrea recently posted..Spooky Little Girl

    • melissa says

      A very good article, I might add! Seriously though, I like your perspective! I don’t care either about the vague comments if they are regular commenters or friends. Luckily on WP the email is required so I haven’t gotten a no-follow one like that!

      • says

        I’ve gotten something like nobody@nowhere.com before. Oddly, from a girl I’ve known online for over a year who’s just paranoid about “the web” having her personal information (like an email address….)

        Can’t recall if others have done it, but I’m sure someone else will eventually. To me, that just says, “I don’t want you contacting me, so don’t.”
        Lynda recently posted..Friday Finds- Food

  6. says

    Very, very well said! “Pimping my giveaway” comments drive the most nuts. Like you said, comment on what I just said. I like your example of the reply being, “Just saying hi. Come over to my house.” How odd would that be!?

    • melissa says

      exactly! My friend Andrea also added this which I thought was an awesome way to look at it: “I can stop by your house, sit in the driveway and claim I came over too, but did we connect?”

  7. says

    What bugs me are comments that shouldn’t be comments! Like things you should email the site owner about.

    For example, a girl visited me from SITS yesterday and accused me of stealing her site’s tagline in her comment! Uhhh… I had never ever ever been to her site before, and my tagline was actually different, if she had read it fully! It was hard to tell if she was upset or what — because she went on to say I had a “nifty” blog. So, I replied to her comment and pointed out my tagline was different & that was it!

    I also visited her site a second time yesterday evening, and she had changed her tagline & header image! So I guess she really was upset?
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  8. says

    This really made me smile. Especially the 200 extra entries bit. I hate those!!!! Who has time?
    But this whole social media scene walks such a fine line between shameless self promotion and well genuine interest that the… umm shall we call them less subtle individuals trample that line on a regular basis.
    I once had another blogger ask me how to get more readers other than just leaving mass comments all over the place. And when I tried to refer her to 31DBBB she shirked it. Some people just don’t appreciate it I guess.
    Want to enter…. just lidding! Have a great day!
    Andrea recently posted..Operation Beautiful and a giveaway!

    • melissa says

      Some people only want the “quick fix” and don’t want to put in any effort! Nothing irritates me more than that (in all aspects of life, not just commenting!)

  9. says

    Thank you! I love this post. Comment vomit. LOL. I’m not sure I’ve heard that one before.

    I don’t mind vague comments, but the other ones on your list do piss me off and I can’t stand when people think they’re going to round-up traffic just because they’ve commented. Generally, I do visit everyone who visits me. I may not subscribe to their site, but I’ll visit and comment every time they visit and comment.

    I get a LOT of vague comments and they’re not really in the same league as the others. Vague commenters may mean well and they’re trying to leave you feedback, but maybe they’re bad writers or just aren’t very wordy. I’m not going to fault them for saying simply, “Thanks, this helped” or “Cool shots!”.

    As for Ann’s question: “So, what do you do in that situation where you genuinely appreciate that they stopped by, but find that their blog is just not one that you have anything to add to? Do you say nothing?”

    If you don’t leave your email address for me to get in contact with you, you obviously don’t care whether or not I contact you to thank you for visiting. I will respond on my blog thanking them and they can come back and see it there if they want.

    That being said, I do try to visit and comment on blogs. It’s actually a good reading comprehension and writing exercise to find something to say about anything you read. There’s always some sort of follow up comment that can be left, even if the topid doesn’t really grab you. (I am so not into religion you could call me anti-religious, yet I’ve commented respectfully and relevantly on a lot of Christian faith blogs.) It doesn’t make a lot of sense for me to thank someone for commenting on MY site on THEIR site.
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    • melissa says

      Good points as always, Lynda! I agree that I don’t mind SOME vague comments, but I was thinking more along the lines of a new person visiting a site and just saying “nice blog!” Like you said though, maybe people just aren’t good with words. :-)

      • says

        I don’t liken my blog to my home in the least. I’m putting this out to the public, I’m not inviting them into a private place. So to me, it’s more like I’ve opened up a store and someone just wanders in and says, “Hey, this place is pretty cool!” and then they leave as quickly as they came and never return. It’s bizarre and out of place, but is it rude? I don’t think so. It’s a compliment and I’ll take it.

        As you mention in the article, if they’re trying to drum up traffic with these “drive bys” it isn’t going to work, but if that’s legitimately what the reader wants to communicate to me, I’m happy to receive it. :)
        Lynda recently posted..Friday Finds- Food

    • says

      Come visit my blog and comment, please! LOL, just kidding!

      I agree. It is a very good exercise to try to find something to say about everything you read. But, sometimes the writing just doesn’t pull you in. I try to only leave comments when I have something to say, rather than searching for something to comment on. However, if you must leave a comment on every blog you peruse, then a timely, on-topic comment will be appreciated more than a vague, “Great blog.”
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      • says

        I don’t always leave a comment when someone comments on my site, but I wouldn’t leave an off-topic comment to say thanks for visiting my site if nothing from their blog drew me in.
        Lynda recently posted..Friday Finds- Food

  10. says

    Love the list. I had one comment recently that sent me over the edge. I had written a list post about ways to save money on heating/cooling costs. Someone vomited all over the comments with a link to their site, their resume, and why they should be hired to install new HVAC units. Blech! SPAM! The other one that really grates on my nerves is the “follow me and I’ll follow you!” I want to know that people are following me because they respect what I am writing and not just to inflate numbers. That’s just as bad as inflated grades in school.

    • melissa says

      WHAT!? How weird re: the HVAC. And yes, the follow me and I’ll follow you are the worst– I want REAL subscribers and readers!

  11. says

    Very well said! And, yeah, I have been to many a blogs where the blogger posted about something very tragic, heartfelt, or emotional, only to receive comments along the lines of “Follow me back, too. Yay!” It’s insensitive and rude.
    -Jessica

  12. says

    Nice post! Great job!
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    Sorry, couldn’t resist being a dork there! I think you completely nailed it. I hate when someone says “Great post!” and then asks me to come to their blog. Seriously.

    I like that you addressed the “Stopping by from XYZ” – I don’t care for this. It’s like saying “Hey, I’m only stopping by out of obligation” – not cool!

    When I stop by from somewhere, I never say this. I try to find a post other than the top one as well.

    • melissa says

      Heehee- love the vagueness! Yeah, I don’t mind the stopping by if they write a genuine comment too. But I don’t really do it myself on others’ blogs. If they have everyone saying that on their posts, it looks like we’re all obligated and I’d feel bad for that person.

      Good point about trying to find another post to comment on as well! I like that.

  13. says

    When people just comment to have them follow you back they are missing the whole point of the blogging community… to connect! I do like to tell people where I came from because on my own blog I like to know how people found me, so I will usually share that.
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  14. says

    I am ok with the thank you for visiting my blog comments, it is probably how I got started following new blogs and finding new friends. Of course I don’t get a lot of comments so I take what I can get!

    Self-promotion is tacky and so are companies that will contact you via comment instead of email address.

    By the way…great post. Nice job.

  15. says

    WOW- you hit the nail on the head with all of these. I really do not have anything to add, but I love your comment about Pimping My Giveaway! That is too funny and so true!! I guess being unknown for the most part has it’s advantages, I do not get to many posts like those mentioned!! Great Job!!

  16. says

    So true. Don’t you eagerly scroll down to read the latest comment hoping for something beefy and lovely? And then to get ‘nice post’. It just such a let down!

  17. says

    You are spot on. Bascially any comments that do not relate to the post are ridiculous. They are just looking to get their link in there and it’s just rude. I have seen them on my blog and others…heartfelt posts followed by a crappy Nice Post! Um hello this post was about heartbreak. It is nice when someone tells me where they are coming from so I know but not if it is not clear that they read the post. Great points you make here and I love encouraging some good comment love!
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  18. says

    saying thanks and then commenting about something I wrote doesn’t bother me, but it doesn’t give me any hope that you’ll be back, either.
    If I followed your comment on my blog, over to your blog, read your post AND commented about what you wrote in a way that let’s you know I read it, I tend not to say “thanks for visiting!” (well, sometimes it slips out) bc if someone takes all that effort (okay, not a ton, but it’s a lot clicking/typing:p ) for ME, then *I* kinda assume that they appreciated my visit at least a little bit.
    And I’m not sure that the world’s longest run-on sentence explain what I was trying to say very well.

  19. says

    Please come and comment and read my post. Subscribe, follow me on twitter like me on Facebook, add my button to your sidebar. Join my meme.

    But on the fa-real. I hate all of those kinds of comments. Please comment about something related to the post I wrote, because I did pour my heart into, burned dinner, let the laundry mildew and stayed up until 2 am to do it. Sheesh.

    And about the last type of comment, I don’t mind it if its accompanied by the acknowledgment that you read my post.

    I have a question. What happens when you read a post that you also wrote about showing another side or answering the bloggers questions is it ok to post your link? I read a post once where the commenter asked for potty training tips and I had just written all my tips out a few months before so added my link. Is that ok?

    • melissa says

      Sure, I’ll join yer meme! :-)

      I think that’s perfectly fine since it was relevant (and even more so since they asked). I think as long as you respond to their comment then explain you wrote something similar or have something to help, then they will appreciate the extra reading! (I’ve done it before with a breastfeeding post I wrote on another blog. They appreciated me sending it to them.)

    • says

      I think it’s completely appropriate in the situation you’ve outlined. I personally LOVE links added in the comments if they’re relevant. Sometimes I’ll even update the article to include them at the end.
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  20. says

    I really appreciate that you see blogging as a place to create a community. I comment because I liked what the blogger said, or I have some experience with whatever it is. And I do want to validate that blogger because, let’s face it, validation lets you know that you’re not alone. And that’s all we can ask for, right? I have the same question as Alexandria above. What do you think about re-linking back to a post on your blog when commenting on a similar post?

  21. says

    Your blog has been so helpful to me the past few weeks!! I am in the early stages of trying to create a new blog that isn’t just a place to update my family on what is going on in my life. I really want to do it right and you have given me a lot of thing to think about. BTW I also love this pics you take. It is one reason I really want a nice camera to take good pics!!

  22. says

    Um, yes, yes, and yes. And as for the “thank you” comments, I do have to say I hate those. There’s this one blogger who I would comment on, and about a day later she’d hit my latest post with a comment that showed she did actually read it, but she always ended with, “Thank you for stopping by my place and leaving a comment!”

    I HATED IT! I was absolutely certain that she only left a comment for me because I left one for her. I got sick of it and quit commenting on her blog. Well, guess what? She never commented again on mine. So now I know that she only visits those who show her the love first.

    I don’t need those kind of readers. Even though I’m sure she thought she was just being polite.
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    • says

      I frequently just visit people when they comment on my site. Sometimes I’m subscribed to their blog, but I just don’t get around to their entries in time, so I appreciate the push. I usually go and comment on someone’s site after they comment on my blog, though never with “thanks for stopping by” in my response – I leave that on my blog.
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  23. says

    Nice post. ;)

    Seriously, I have been ruminating on a comment-centric post for a while. Now I don’t have to write it!

    The one thing I have mixed feelings on is saying, “Thanks for stopping by.” If I say that, I’m genuinely thanking the blogger for spending some time with me, because I really – REALLY – appreciate comments. I typically reply to people within my comment string, but I also try to take the time to visit the commenter’s blog (I’m talking about new commenters – people from blogs I’ve never read before).

    I used to try to email everyone, and then it just got crazy trying to keep up with emails, comments, replies, etc. So every once in a while, when someone new to me comments on my site, I will visit them and say thanks (but I also comment on their post!!).

    If I visit and can’t think of a valid, useful comment then I go with Thumper’s rule and say nothing at all…
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  24. says

    Okay, first of all, your header really *is* cute. :)

    Also, this post made me stop and think – do I do any of this? Yikes, I hope not, but it’ll definitely make me think twice every time I comment from now on!

    One thing I wonder – do you read all the other comments before you post yours? Sometimes I do, sometimes I don’t. When I don’t, I wonder if I’m just echoing something someone else already said. Ah well. :)
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    • melissa says

      Hehe- thanks- I designed my header myself so that means a lot!

      Sometimes I read other comments; sometimes I don’t. It depends. If it’s a post that opens up a discussion, I’ll usually scan through. If it’s a regular post (like details of a vacation or a meme) I’ll just post a comment.

  25. says

    Nice post hahaha no kidding!
    But seriously it is annoying to get these type of comments but so far I’ve been lucky with people that really do comment and I am trying my best to return it with my own genuine comments. I do sometimes only reply “Thanks for stopping by” if the initial comment doesn’t really have any depth as in what you describe up there.

    I am guilty for saying that “Visiting from xyz” at first tho’ until I read somewhere I think it was Mama Kat who wrote how annoying that can get LOL.
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    • melissa says

      I still say Visiting from XYZ on occasion if I’ve never been to their site before. But if I see a lot of people ahead of me doing it, then I don’t!

  26. says

    Hahaha! I enjoyed reading your post very much. It was a bold move putting all of your (our) peeves out there about blog comments and I’m glad you had the guts to shine a light on this. You did it in a way that added humor with a slight bit of sarcasm but wasn’t at all offending. I think we all need to pay close attention to what we write in the little comment boxes. BTW, you’ve got to be enjoying the amount of comments here. Great job!

    Oh, I almost forgot…Love your header, would make an adorable painted tile (trivet, magnet…) just sayin’. It’s what I do.

    • melissa says

      Thanks for that, seriously! I was nervous about putting this post out there (it’s been shelved in draft form for months). Glad you enjoyed my take on it!

  27. says

    Ooooh! I’m still cringing! When I first started blogging 3 short months ago, I wouldn’t comment on anything unless it was directly related to my niche (math ed) and even then only if I could put my url in the comment (shaaaame!)

    It’s only from broadening my outlook and reading articles that I genuinely enjoyed, and seeing how others with more experience (or better blogging social skills!) interact in the comments, that I can now comment as though the author were right next to me on the train.

    Hopefully most of the perpetrators of bad comments are newbies who know no better and will “get it” soon, rather than being true sociopaths!

    • says

      I also think that most perpetrators of bad comments are newbies. Mostly, I’m amused by “comment vomit”. Some people just have really bad commenting practices and hopefully this article will help them realize why what they’re doing won’t work. As a blog maintainer, it’s easy for me to ignore these types.
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    • melissa says

      Yeah, I do think a lot of people are newbies but I DO see people with established blogs do some of these things too!

      It’s definitely nice to step outside our niches and see how others interact. Observation is a great learning tool!

  28. Hannah says

    I love how you categorized the different types of commentors. I am ok with the vague comments but I really hate the I am following you come follow me back comments. I leave my site sometimes under my comment only because I am just letting know I am out there if they want to stop bye, but I don’t want people following my blog if they have no real interest in getting to know me.

    As I delve deeper into this whole blogging world I am always really shocked at how some peoples blogs have become nothing but follows and an obsession with getting followers!
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  29. says

    OMG Yes! I can’t stand those comments that are so vague that it’s clear they didn’t read the post. I once wrote a very heartfelt post about the abandonment I felt from my father and this is what someone left in my comments: “fun fun fun fun blog! Im so happy i found you! proud follower now! come follow me back! thanks!”

    I was so appalled by her complete insensitivity that I almost emailed her back with a big ole WTF but decided against it. I just don’t understand…At least get the IDEA of the post before you leave a completely insensitive comment.
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    • melissa says

      Oh I would be SOOO peeved, as you obviously were. I just can’t believe someone would open up a website and instantly scroll to the comments, missing the headline or ANY word in the entire post!

  30. says

    This post made me laugh! Vomit, vomit and more vomit is everywhere out here. I just have to say, I LOVE all your Momcomm posts. I have applied them to my blog and I feel like I am growing and expanding as a writer/blogger! Thanks Mel, you are fantastic online and off!

    • melissa says

      Yeah, I don’t think I’ve ever said the word vomit that much. And I hate that word anyway so it’s makes me cringe!

      Thanks for all the sweet words- we’ll have to get together again soon!

  31. says

    I must admit that I’ve broken a few of these rules but it’s normally when I’m visiting someone who commented on my blog or who I met through SITS. Sometimes you end up at a really whacky far out blog that you think “Whoa…what am I going to say about this post????” and all you can do is say “Hi! Visiting from….” and leave it at that.

    I try to visit lots of blogs, read posts & write great comments. I wish that everyone did that, though, because as a blogger getting great comments is one of the best things ever!

    • melissa says

      It IS the best thing ever! That’s happened to be before on SITS too. I usually don’t comment or do a “sorta” vague comment- not the “great post” or “nice blog” type but “looks like you had fun!” or something a wee bit more specific. You’re right though, it’s tough thinking of what to say sometimes!

  32. says

    Wow LOVE your blog. OK, had to say that as I’m a smartass this late at night. :P Seriously, well written my dear. That takes some nerve to write this as you may well risk offending a past commenter who is still visiting.

    But that said, I agree wholeheartedly. I think many of these poor comments are coming from newbies. I was asking folks to visit me in the very beginning, and it wasn’t until I started getting comments that sounded like no one was really reading my posts that I realized what a boob I’d been. Though I did try to comment genuinely, sometimes when visiting through a group, like visiting a SITS girl, I didn’t have a connection or anything really deep to say. I think in those cases, it’s better to not say anything at all.

    As for thanking someone for visiting, I think the best way is if it is genuine. If someone visited me and that’s how I learned about her, and I really like her blog, I’ll tell her I’m excited that she visited me because I’ve loved seeing her blog. I’ll also follow her and she’ll see that if she’s paying attention. I don’t need to announce it.

    Nothing irks me more than the old “thanks for visiting. I’m your newest follower.” Ok, maybe the “I’m visiting from…” or the “come see me at …” Comments without any genuine thought, or only asking for visitors, get deleted. Comments are a conversation. If it isn’t contributing in any way, good or bad, I remove them because, frankly, you don’t want to read that when following the conversation, do you? OK, this is long enough. Nighty night. :)

    • melissa says

      I agree with the idea that it’s probably best not to say anything at all, although I do sometimes try to find SOMETHING I can say. I never lie though and say I like something if I really don’t.

      The “come see me at…” ones are the worst, really. It actually makes me NOT want to visit. I visit just about EVERYONE who posts here at one point or another- I don’t need to be reminded!

      Thanks for the awesome comment, BTW!

  33. says

    Great collection of comment vomit :D I don’t really know what annoys me the most. To be honest the comments on my blog haven’t been so bad. The problem that I think most comments have is that they simply say something like “Great article ..”(like mine) and that there is really no way you can add to this. There is no way to turn this into a conversation. That’s what I hate the most because I never know how I should respond.
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  34. says

    I break all the rules of blogging. First of all, I don’t get many of these comments so either I have some really awesome readers or I don’t have many readers at all. But if I DID have these types of comments, yes, I would be annoyed. I’m really bad about stopping by someone’s blog who stopped by mine. But by the same token, when I leave a comment on someone’s blog, it’s because I generally feel compelled to, not because I expect anything in return.

    Here is the question I have for Momcomm land because I do this sometimes and never know if it is rude. If I’m reading someone’s post, I might leave a legitimate comment and if applicable, say “Actually, I just wrote about something very similar (link)” and leave a link in the comment. Sometimes I just say I wrote. Sometimes I leave the link. Thoughts?
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    • melissa says

      Someone else asked that too and a couple of us thought that was fine. I alway put myself in their shoes and if it were me and I’d want to see what someone else wrote about a similar topic!

  35. says

    Ah, comment vomit. I love it. I get a few of the comments mentioned, but for the most part people seem to comment on the posted topic. Poor grammar and typos in my comments get on my nerves. I always want to go in and correct what people write when it’s incorrect or misspelled. I also want to leave comments to other people when something is grammatically incorrect or misspelled in their blog, but I figured that would probably be rude too. I know I’m not immune to typos and errors, but I have my mom and sister reading my blog and they point out my mistakes so I can correct them.

    • melissa says

      Oh I don’t think anything bothers me more than poor grammar and spelling! I totally agree. I’ve been an editor in some shape or form for years and years and I want to grab a red pen and correct everything. Ha!

  36. says

    What I like the most about this post is the disclaimer that you added about certain comments not bothering you if they come from regular readers. If someone who has been reading my blog for a long time says, “Great post” it has a totally different effect than if a first time commenter says the same thing and nothing else.

    I tend to leave a lot of comments. I even turn some of the comments I leave on other blogs into a weekly post. I was recently offended because the author of a blog I visit regularly responded to one of my comments by saying that they look forward to my comments and have noticed that lately they are getting shorter. I felt like all of a sudden it was an obligation to leave long insightful comments every time. Then I let it go because I realized it was meant to be a compliment.

    You offer helpful guidelines and your post has sparked a lot of reactions from me, but I’ll stop now or my comment will end up being longer than the post.

  37. says

    I’m rather new to the blogging world, but I swear I’ve only gotten about 5-10 genuine posts (that weren’t from family and friends) about the things I write. Now granted, a lot of what I post are deals and sales and coupon stuff. Nothing deep and interesting. So a “thanks!” or “awesome!” suffices there.
    But I have had crafting posts and recipe posts and from the heart posts that have gotten what I have deemed rather insensitive comments.

    I do have to admit…when I blog hop sometimes I don’t get very deep if the person has a post specifically for me to comment on during the hop. And I don’t expect very deep comments from those that hop to me either. My goal in the blog hop is to gain exposure. The fact that they even stepped foot on my blog is progress to me. And a comment is icing on the cake in that case.
    I’m rambling…LOL
    Heather @ Family Friendly Frugality recently posted..Come hop with me

  38. says

    Amen, sister!

    Most of my commenters are pretty awesome folk who answer my questions, leave nice compliments or thoughtful ideas. Occasionally I’ll get the “great post!” comment and I ignore that bitch. VERY occasionally I’ll get a contest comment or someone asking me to check out their blog. That just gets deleted. Mostly thought people who take the time to comment actually, you know, TAKE THE TIME. And I love love love that! For example, you recently left a comment on my blog and it was friendly, useful, sent me back here without being spammy and actually provided some solid feedback.

    Apparently you’re the Comment Queen! Way to go – you have a new fan ;-)
    Marian Schembari recently posted..Some Lessons I Will Never Learn

    • melissa says

      Glad I could live up to giving a good comment. I wouldn’t want to vomit on anyone’s blog. Look forward to reading more from you, lady!

  39. says

    I read this blog post from a tweet from Marian Schembari, love the blog post LoL! I had some funny comments on by blog which made me block their email and IP because it was too annoying.

    I do get some “nice blog post” but they do have the reason why after that.

    I don’t know about you but I don’t really like ““Pimping my giveaway” comments LoL! they seem to spammy to me. Well that’s just me

    Great post indeed.
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  40. says

    I have very few followers on my blog, and when I get a comment, I go “yay! someone read and even took time to comment on my post!” It’s a little frustrating to see that it’s just someone trying to promote her own blog. At the same time, though, I like short comments like “Nice review. Maybe I’ll read it.” (I do book reviews.) I like knowing that someone somewhere is reading this stuff, and that my words aren’t disappearing into thin air.
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  41. says

    i don’t usually comment on one blog twice in one day – would that be vomit or comment love?? anyway, just wanted to say that this post made me laugh out loud, seriously. that never happens. btw, i’m surprised you didn’t mention those spam comments. you know the ones – the comments that show up on a post 3 months old about penis enlargement or some such nonsense. i actually get those comments!
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    • melissa says

      Thanks for the compliment! (sorry I’m so late in responding back)

      Oh the spam comments are awful, aren’t they!? Luckily my spam blocker catches most of them!

  42. says

    Huh. Whodda guessed? It’s my lack of techsavvy that kept me from being an asshole. I never thought of cutting and pasting the same comment over and over so I always write an original one at each site I visit. As for reading the entire post at someone’s place, yeah, I do, in case they know I didn’t and What if they ask me something back and I just sit there with my head cocked to the side and my eyes blinking…

    I’m all scared like that.

    So, I guess being dumb has it’s advantages…

    • melissa says

      I read you comment last week but am just now getting around to tell you that THIS COMMENT ROCKS. You’re hysterical… and display the RIGHT way to comment. :-) Woot!

  43. says

    Wow, great post! I have experienced ALL of those vomit comments in the past, but now that I’ve joined a social blog group it seems I am getting more and more of the “I’m following you, follow me back” comments. Now I’m going to be extra vigilant to not be the vomiter.

    p.s. love your blog design – very bright & happy.

    xoxo,
    your newest follower!
    carrie recently posted..kindred spirits

    • melissa says

      Yep, I stopped doing certain blog hops and linky parties because of that. But I’ve found others are really great and people leave thoughtful comments. I guess you never know!

  44. says

    So yeah…I did take something away from this! Thank you! I have been guilty of trying to at least let someone know I stopped by and would be back. It’s good to know that this isn’t always enough. There is a lesson to be learned everyday isn’t there? Social media rocks only if we can get it all figured out…okay…well at least be willing to learn!

    Have a beautiful day!
    Mary Schreifels recently posted..Being a Grandma

  45. says

    Found you thru Diary of a Madwoman. I’m fairly new to the blogging world but I can honestly say the worst comments are “I’m following you so hopefully you can follow me back…” You’re not even sure the person even read anything you had to say. I even had one where the host of a bloghop said, “hopefully you will get more followers.” I was at a lost for words, thinking gosh please call me out for having no followers. Forget the fact that I’m new and have never done a bloghop before. Lol!

    • melissa says

      I can’t believe someone said that to you! Yes, I refuse to go to someone’s site if they leave a comment and ONLY say that! It basically tells me they just want another follower. I’m personally only interested in being followed if they really want to read what I say. Likewise, I only follow if I want to read their posts too.

      Have you ever tried SITS girls? (http://www.thesitsgirls.com) I find most of those gals leave genuine comments!

    • says

      That was really rude of them to call you out like that. That comment would have definitely gotten deleted off my page. I did have someone DM me and tell me that maybe I should change my content to increase my readership….did I mention that at the time I had only been blogging for two weeks?
      Chanel recently posted..Wordless Wednesday- Reverse Al Bundy

  46. says

    Awesome post. Love the catchy title. :)

    When I read the title, my first thought was, uh-oh.

    I tend to vomit a little bit too much information in the comments. I try to remind myself to discuss the writer and their perspective, but sometimes I’m so excited to have experienced something similar that I spill my guts (another form of selfish comment vomit).

    Thanks for the ideas.

    • melissa says

      haha- I don’t think that’s selfish at all! I think bloggers like to see that their readers can relate to them with a similar story— at least I do!

  47. says

    I agree with this and I try very hard to say something about the post…if I got nothing I usually don’t comment – unless they gave me a nice comment of substance…then I gotta think SOMETHING up. ;)

    • melissa says

      I agree! Sometimes I spend WAY too long trying to think of something but I refuse to just “vomit” on their page.

  48. says

    If the comment looks spammy, it probably is, and I delete it.

    But to answer Ann’s comment, I have a theory. Sometimes I comment (and get comment) on my blog that are EXCELLENT comments but our two blogs have nothing to do with each other. I go ahead and let the link to the commenter’s website stay. If the content of the comment is good, then a link to a non-related blog doesn’t stress me.

    As for thanking them, I usually post a comment on my OWN blog thanking them for the comment. I’ll go check out their blog but if I have nothing of value to add to their conversation, I don’t!

  49. says

    I know that I have been guilty of some quick comments. Sometimes I’m not really sure what to say in response to a post, but I want the writer to know that people are reading and appreciating their effort… Another blogger I read just had a venting session yesterday about self-centered/self-promoting comments – it too garnered lots of hearfelt comments. Obviously this is a topic we all care about deeply. Thanks for the reminder to step up my own game in the comments department.
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    • melissa says

      No problem! Yep, it can be tough to find something to say on some posts. In that case, I keep it short but genuine or don’t comment at all. Also, I think quick comments can be different than self-serving ones… the ones where it’s obvious they didn’t read the post and all they want is for you to visit their blog. Those are the truest form of comment vomit in my opinion! :-)

  50. says

    Even though I am fairly new to the blogshphere I understand how frustrating it is to receive some of those common comment faux pas(sp).

    I don’t usually delete the comments off my blog but I have a couple of times. Honestly when someone leaves a comment saying just stopping by follow me back or something like that; I usually don’t even check out their blog.
    Chanel recently posted..Wordless Wednesday- Reverse Al Bundy

  51. says

    Oh, this is good – I can relate to your reactions, for sure!

    However, often I am probably guilty of leaving “Great post” one liners as well. – Even though I am completely genuine, it might not always come across that way, it’s just that I have a rare moment to even leave a few words at best.

    I think I dislike it the most when it is SO obvious someone is leaving a comment or ‘following’ just because they want that in return. I usually leave a comment on a post only because I have an actual response to what they’ve written – no hidden motives from this mama! :)

  52. says

    I loooove this post! I couldn’t agree more on any point!

    I’m so glad that WP gives me the option to moderate comments, I always moderate new commenters and I don’t publish anything that doesn’t have something to do with the post. Contact me through my contact tab if you want me to follow you, but if you don’t even bother to leave a thoughtful comment I probably won’t follow you anyway.

    It really does amaze me how many people just don’t think about etiquette before commenting!
    Stacy recently posted..Personal Happiness Reflection Inventory

  53. says

    Whew – when I first saw the title I was worried you were gonna go off on people whose comments were endless vomiting of thoughts, which would have made me feel rather persecuted! But no, these are all terribly annoying things. And I admit… even when following a nice comment I get annoyed by a “thanks for visiting my blog!” Though I appreciate when people say where they came from, then I get a better idea of where my readers come from! And I fear I can sometimes be like “love this post!” but I’m dreadful at having comments that are great for meaningful posts – sadly I’m somewhat banal in real life and it comes across online!

  54. says

    I read blogs every day sometimes until it feels like my eyes are going to bleed. Your topic, “vomit” absolutely made my day given I see so much of what you described. I get comments that say, “I’m following you, please follow me back.” NOT! Thanks for a well written and thoughtful blog ~ I will follow you and look forward to seeing your posts in my feed.
    Karen Vowell-Mager recently posted..Im always cold!

    • melissa says

      Thanks Karen! I know– it really makes me cringe when I see these types of comments! I just wanna email them this link and say “SEE! Everyone agrees that it’s vomit!”

  55. says

    Great post!! I don’t get many of the vomit variety, so don’t usually delete comments. Used to get quite a bit of spam though – not sure why it quit, but happy it did.

    It’s funny how people what followers when really – it means nothing. I have a list on the sidebar of my blog of blogs that I like to visit and comment on, and blogs I know will comment back, or even visit my blog and comment when I don’t have time to visit theirs. No one goes to all the blogs they follow.
    Audrey recently posted..My new Journal and Biscuits &amp Gravy

    • melissa says

      Thanks Audrey– yes, spam is horrendous. I have a plug-in that captures it all but I still have to look through because it catches legit comments sometimes!

  56. says

    Best post I’ve seen about leaving blog comments! I don’t get many comments on my blog yet, but I have had to delete the random “I’m from a big company and wanted to drop a completely irrelevant link” comment. Blech.

    I also don’t care for the “I’m following you/liked you/hearted you and would love it if you followed me/liked me/hearted me back” comments (I get those in other places like FB). I like to be nice and don’t want to offend someone by NOT following/liking/hearting them, but life is cluttered enough and I won’t do so just because they told me to.
    Jennifer recently posted..getting things done

  57. says

    Stopping by after you linked this to my comment about the #ubp11 commenting “options”. BTW LOVE this. Oh, I’m your newest follower can you follow me back. And I have a giveaway, will you promote it on your blog for free. What was it you wrote about in this post because I didn’t actually read it I just wanted to leave my name and info here so you could see me.

    JUST KIDDING!!

    I read the entire post and I love how you split out the examples. You should see the comments I got last year. Oh well, whatdaya do? I’m trying to be relevant, that’s all I can say about my comments.
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  58. says

    You hit the nail on the head.

    I remember reading a post where the child was really sick, and then there was one of those comments. I was trying to find my own delete button for them.

    By the way, I’m your newest follower, and I’m having a great-giveaway, and I popped over via your twitter feed. Ha ha ha, and just kidding. Well, I did pop over via twitter, but I just had to add all that other stuff.

    Again, great post!
    Rachel recently posted..its time

  59. says

    Totally love this post! I was a part of the comment hour this week and it killed me the number of “Stopping by. Follow me back” on seriously heartfelt posts! It was as if they never even read it! I admit that I will add “Stopping by from SITS” to the end of a comment (especially if it is a part of a blog hop) but I always make sure that I post a relevant comment as well! I don’t have a relevant comment on the linked post I will find one that I find interesting and then comment. Empty comments are worthless!
    Jamee @ A New Kind of Normal recently posted..Friday Words of Faith- 2 Years Ago

  60. says

    This post makes me so happy. Imma gonna bookmark it and keep it ready for every FB fanpage slut that writes “Just popped over from xyz & “liked” your page. Make sure to come by and “like” me back!” on my wall.

    No. You know why? I ALREADY DON’T LIKE YOU.
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    • melissa says

      I know- it’s the worst, right? I’m always surprised when people actually follow those people back.

  61. says

    I love this! As someone with a relatively new blog, I feel like I should be grateful for any comment/traffic I get, but the ones like “I followed you, follow me back” irk me to no end. Love the image you chose for the post, too.

    Looking forward to reading more – thanks for a good laugh this afternoon.
    ChiMomWriter recently posted..Workouts for Moms with No Time

    • melissa says

      I really appreciate you stopping by to comment!

      I agree that people may not realize what they are doing but I usually tell people to think of the Golden Rule. When you put yourself in the other blogger’s shoes, it usually clicks for most people. They realize that THEY wouldn’t want a comment like that and they’re more aware of treating others that way as well.

      Again thanks for stopping by and I hope the Blog Party is rockin’ this year (it sure seems to be)!

  62. says

    I found your “Comment Vomit” badge on another site and I was impelled to click on it. How could you not?
    The funny thing is that this is just the kind of post it would be SO easy to leave one of “those” comments on. But I seriously did love it. We need to hashtag this #nocommentvomit

  63. says

    I honestly cannot believe people would do that. It is hands down one of the rudest things I could imagine someone doing in the blog world. I never once would think to post back to my blog like that. Hahaha.

    A quick question, though, what if I had recently posted something on a topic and I bring it up. Like say, someone makes a most about making apple muffins. And a couple days prior I made a post about the best baking apple types. What if I said, “I love apple muffins, just the other day I made a post about the best types of baking apples, what are you favorite types to bake with?” Is that a no-no?

    More or less I say stuff like that to relate back to the author, I never link my posts or anything, so it seems less invasive. Ha.
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  64. says

    Hi, i have to admit I remember this post when you originally put it up, but didn’t get the chance to comment at the time. This time I searched it out because I wanted that banner.

    I enjoy a good blog hop as it’s a way to get introduced to new blogs. Sane as I always enjoy seeing everyone’s Wordless Wednesday photos. What’s annoying lately is the “I’m following on GFC” “Visiting from XYZ Blog Hop” or “Your new FB Fan” (on my wall) then the dreaded “follow me back.” Or how about the single word “Yum” on a recipe post.

    But I’m writing because I have CommentLuv installed & those types of comments usually have a Giveaway post attached. See, I luv CommentLuv because I can remove the Luv if semi-annoyed, and keep most of the comment. Other times I edit out the live link that is left in addition to CommentLuv. Also have Reply Me plugin, so if they’re just spamming with a Giveaway, I invite them through that to post to my Linky. I figure CommentLuv offers visitors at least a generous 10 opps to pick a post to leave. If totally annoyed, I just delete the comment entirely. The old saying about Spam, friendly or not – you know it when you see it.

    Thanks for a terrific opportunity to be a sounding board abd fir your generous banner! Tweeted your post out multiple times, and Thumbs Up!
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  65. says

    Commit Vomit is such a funny name for such a serious post – luv it and agree with what you are saying. Although I love getting comments on my blog, I get tired of the Blog Hop or follow comments being placed on my heartfelt blog posts. I understand when it is someone that is new to blogging, but am getting sick of the spam, too. Once of my commenters actually suggested that I read your post at Momcomm (which led me to connect with you at Twitter and then here, so that I could comment) – I’m glad that I did. You do write well. Hugs & Blessings :)
    Lea recently posted..Monday Marketing Tip – Best Blog Comment – How This Is Abused By 4 Types Of Bloggers

    • melissa says

      Thanks Lea for the comment (and for finding me)! I SO agree about the blog hops. They are the worst which is why I stay far far away from them. See you on Twitter!

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